She tried it on before we attended a wedding in Chicago, last weekend and had me help her fasten the rear straps, which was a delight. Then she had to go to the john and was putt off the OBG because she had to remove the nylons and then remove her panties and then go through the whole restrap procss. She went back to her regular garterbelt with the panties over. My question is: Is there a proper way to wear panties with a OBG? There are two schools of thought on this, I think.
Once considered by many women to be an essential part of their wardrobe, the girdle is a garment that has long since fallen out of fashion, such that readers may be forgiven for being unfamiliar with this formerly popular piece of foundation wear. Nevertheless, the girdle's effectiveness at encouraging discipline and its potency as a punishment are such that it should not be allowed to languish at the back of grandmother's lingerie drawer, but instead seriously considered by any woman wanting a way to keep her husband under control.
In this brief guide, we'll look at the different kinds of girdles that are available today, exploring how the various styles can not only shape a man's body, but also encourage him to develop a more submissive state of mind.
We'll discuss the practicalities of putting your husband in a girdle, showing that even the problems of such garments can be turned to your advantage. We'll also see how it only takes some simple sewing to ensure that he stays fastened in such frustrating foundation wear, as well as what your husband can wear with it - whether you want to have him girdled for you in private, or in public!
One need only turn one's mind to pinups of the past to begin to appreciate the power of more imposing intimate attire, considering the female figure encased in elasticated fabric that not only enhanced the wearer's curves but served as an unassailable shield against straying eyes and hands alike. These comparatively innocent images were all they had to prepare them for peeling off a girlfriend's panty girdle, the forbidding fastenings of which surely proved far more challenging than the modern-day equivalent of pulling down a thong!
Such associations linger even to this day, as the enduring stereotype of the fifties housewife shows.
A brief guide to girdles for men
With her body buried beneath the substantial layer of lingerie that helped give her such a ladylike shape, she busies herself about the house without ever appearing out of breath, her hosiery held up just as effortlessly by the sturdy straps of her girdle.
Although perhaps quaint in comparison to the unbridled sexuality of contemporary girls, this archetypal image nevertheless embodies a quintessential femininity, one that is alluring submissive and chaste. After all, how could a woman be overly wanton when she has surrendered her body to a garment that takes so much trouble to get out of, suffering its grip as the price that must be paid for a pleasing appearance? The practical impact of wearing a girdle is profound even in the absence of the garment's psychological connotations, with the simple act of going to the toilet requiring care if the wearer is not to fall foul of its crotch-covering fabric.
Sexual activity is similarly hampered, with the suppressive effect still more pronounced for a man. Even without having to contend with a stifled erection, the ever-present sensation of stretched elastic is hard for him to forget, not only hugging his hips, but embracing his buttocks too. With the arrival of pantyhose and hold-up stockings, it is hardly surprising that liberated women chose to cast off the obligations of such oppressive clothing, yet the very reasons they did so make such forgotten shapewear perfect for putting your husband in his place.
In Figure 1, my husband wears the lingerie Men in open bottom girdles a modern woman, such underwear serving as a most suitable ensemble for a submissive man to wear as part of his daily wardrobe. His simple black bra and thong are accompanied by the suspender or garter belt which holds up his stockings - although nowadays, even this garment is less commonly chosen by his female counterparts.
There's no denying the sexual charge of such a seductive combination, however, with this archetypal underwear sure to set his pulse racing whether he wears it in the bedroom or beneath his suit to work, but a couple of problems are apparent when one considers it carefully. To start with, his masculine frame is not as well suited as a woman's when it comes to supporting a suspender belt, with his wider waist and narrower hips providing a much shallower angle on which its thin strip of fabric must sit.
That sees such a garment in danger of slipping down his body, especially once its straps start to be tugged by constantly stretching stockings - something which is a particular problem for taller men having to contend with hosiery poorly suited to their height.
Although my husband could wear fasten his garter belt even tighter in an effort to alleviate this, the resulting strain can be both unsightly and uncomfortable, with the delicate material of which such lingerie is made simply not deed for such treatment. A much broader, sturdier means of support would be better!
Secondly, there's an unladylike bulge in my husband's thong, caused by how such skimpy underwear does little to suppress his manhood - even before he becomes erect! Despite wearing his panties under his suspender belt as befits a submissive man, it is still all too easy for my husband to gain access to what's underneath, with the stretchy fabric that fails to flatten his crotch capable of being pulled down without him even having to unfasten his stockings!
Moreover, while the lines of black elastic are a pleasing sight on my husband's pert posterior, such narrow straps would do nothing to shape his buttocks were his flesh more flabby. Again, a more substantial garment is called for - a good, old-fashioned girdle! In Figure 2, my husband wears an open bottom girdle, so called because its fabric does not close under the crotch like a pair of panties, but instead is open like a skirt.
Indeed, this garment may be thought of as a kind of skirt, albeit a very short, tight skirt that shamelessly supports his stockings with a series of integral suspenders. The girdle that my husband models features six sturdy straps, but ones with as many as fourteen are available - a veritable nightmare for the man who must ensure they are all perfectly straight!
The chunky metal clasps mean there's no chance of my husband's stockings slipping down, whereas the broad band of material is sure to stay stuck to his body. Covering his hips completely, the figure-hugging fabric does more than keep up my husband's hosiery, however - it serves to shape his figure too, flattening his crotch as well as holding his buttocks under its firm control. Now that he is wearing a girdle on top, pulling down his panties has become rather less straightforward, leaving my husband with a dilemma when he wishes to go to the toilet. Should he unfasten each and every one of the suspender straps so as to be able to roll up the reluctant material, or should he tackle the formidable fastener that must be undone for him to be free of his foundation wear?
As Figure 3 shows, the latter is comprised of not only the same kind of hooks and eyes that might be found on lesser lingerie, but also a zipper than runs up almost two-thirds of the length of the garment.
The tightness with which a correctly-sized girdle clutches its wearer is such that both are required to avoid overly straining either one, with the combination capable of imposing an almost corset-like pressure. We'll see later how this offers ample scope for locking your husband in a girdle, but even without additional measures, it makes undressing more difficult - in turn, deterring unnecessary bathroom breaks, let alone less desirable activity! Thanks to how an open bottom style presses the insides of a man's thighs together, it will also help discourage him from spreading his legs in a slovenly manner while sitting - a blessing to any woman wanting to stop her husband from constantly scratching his crotch!
Whereas the open bottom girdle may be considered to be a particularly severe sort of garter belt, the panty girdle is, as its name suggests, more like a pair of panties. Although more modern control panties are a popular option among women wishing to banish a wobbly backside or tame a troublesome tummy, there's nothing quite like the old-fashioned style when it comes to keeping your man in line.
The high waist panty girdle that my husband models in figure 4 illustrates this point perfectly, its unforgiving fabric stifling his sex to such an extent that one might easily overlook the barest residual bulge. As before, my husband's girdle sports suspenders straps, but as Figure 5 shows, the lengths of sturdy elastic that supports his stockings are attached to little loops in the garment's hem, allowing them to removed if desired.
Later, we'll look at how a man can be made to wear a panty girdle on top of pantyhose in order to maximise his frustration, but for now, it's worth noting that not all panty girdles feature such attachments.
Open bottom girdles for men
If you're wishing to feminize your husband with stockings that require supporting, take care to choose shapewear with the capability to hold them up! My husband's panty girdle features a similarly high waist to the open bottom girdle we saw ly, again fastening up the side to help control a protruding paunch. This time, however, the figure-hugging fabric is closed under the crotch, preventing it from simply being rolled up.
Some styles feature a gusset that can be opened by means of press studs or further hooks and eyes, but such a convenience can be easily sewn closed to make it more difficult for your husband to get to his groin. In the absence of easier access, a man must go through the laborious process of unfastening his panty girdle before he can pull it down, then engage in an equally awkward procedure to get back into it - something that will almost inevitably require him to sit down to pee.
Figure 6 shows the resulting feminine flatness. For even greater control, consider making your husband wear a long leg girdle of the kind that mine models in Figure 7.
Admittedly, such a style is somewhat less sexy than the other garments we have been looking at, having more in common with a pair of tight-fitting cycling shorts than a saucy suspender belt, but any absence of erotic appeal only makes it more effective when it comes to controlling the male organ - even for submissive crossdressers who might be turned on by being trapped in tight underwear.
Reaching all the way down from the midriff to the top of the thighs, the sturdy material makes no concessions for a man's sex no matter how aroused he may be, instead smothering it beneath a layer of stiflingly stiff fabric that requires ificant effort to escape. This particular style claims to have a convenient opening in the gusset, but one wonders how many women would trust their dryness to the contrivance shown in Figure 8. In any case, a line of stitching is sufficient to deny my husband any choice in the matter, leaving him once again little option but to completely unfasten his foundation wear before he can go to the bathroom.
The high waist, long leg style must be pulled half way down his legs before he can safely attend to his business, something which poses a ificant challenge should he also have to contend with suit, shirt and trousers in a cramped public stall. As before, my husband is wearing stockings rather than pantyhose, but it's hard to tell Men in open bottom girdles their lacy tops are hidden beneath the legs of his girdle. Only he knows how the concealed suspenders pictured in Figure 9 are pressed against his thighs by the garment's extra-firm fabric, the sturdy clasps effortlessly supporting hosiery whose sheer nylon must seem ethereal in comparison to the shapewear which so sternly holds his body.
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How far we have come from the flimsy garter belt that we first saw him in, with a garment that threatened to slip down of its own accord having been swapped for one that controls his crotch completely! Gone are the days when girdles were a staple of any lingerie store, supplanted by control panties and other shapewear that offers the modern woman today's way to a more flattering silhouette.
Although such garments perform a very similar function in shaping the stomach, buttocks and thighs, they compare poorly for our purposes, often lacking not only the means to support a man's stockings, but also the fastenings that allow for still greater submission.
That's not to say that a pair of pull-on control panties can't be used to keep your husband in check, but rather that a girdle with a good old-fashioned zipper is even more effective at enforcing your control over his crotch - so much so, in fact, that it is well worth going to the trouble to get your hands on such a garment. While their availability has been helped by a revival in retro fashion, it is still simpler to source girdles from specialist online suppliers, where you can take your time choosing the style best suited to your needs - and indeed, the size.
Here things are made slightly more complicated by how a man's body differs in its proportions to that of a woman's, having, as we saw before, a less pronounced difference between the waist and the hips. Not only do girdles of the kind we've been considering cover both, they're also cut with womanly curves in mind, forcing a compromise from wearers with less feminine figures.
If one were to go by mere measurements, selecting a single garment that both hugs your husband's hips and shapes his waist without being too tight to be unwearable might at first sight seem impossible. Nevertheless, despite its severity, the amount of stretch in a girdle's fabric is generally enough to accommodate a man's body, so long as you choose both a style that makes it easier for him to squeeze into it and a size that splits the difference between hips and waist.
For example, my husband's hips measure a modest 34 inches and his unwomanly waist 30 inches, which, if one looks at the size chart for the long leg girdle we last saw him in, appears to simultaneously Men in open bottom girdles both a small and a large size to fit him - yet the former falls short of his waist measurement by a full four inches, whereas the latter allows an extra six inches for hips he simply doesn't have. Bearing in mind a man's different fat distribution, a medium size makes for a suitable compromise - even without such a garment's encouragement, my husband can suck his stomach in to meet the 28 inches that is all it allows.
Once his girdle is fastened, he is forced to maintain this more desirable measurement, even discouraged from over-eating so as to more easily meet the demands of its firm fabric. Under such circumstances, the marginally more forgiving material on his hips is unlikely to be at the forefront of his mind, but as we saw in the photographs, there's not a ificant amount of slack to be found there.
Feminine girdles for men - an introduction to open bottom girdles
That's because such garments are sized for women who are seeking all-over reduction, and so are intended to hug the body rather than hang loose. A couple of extra inches eases the stretch of elastic, but not so much that it sags - indeed, my husband's medium girdle is still sufficiently tight as to leave the middle half of his body held in its restrictive embrace.
Of course, as with any item of clothing, finding the correct size of girdle for your husband may require a little trial and error. All is not lost should you buy him one that is a size too small, however - so long as you can squeeze him inside its stifling fabric with sufficient struggle, or at the very least, make him believe that you could should you put your mind to it, such a garment may be reserved for when he needs to be more severely punished.
The mere presence of an impossibly tight girdle at the bottom of a man's lingerie drawer will do wonders for his behaviour, as well as making a more lenient replacement seem like a mercy, even if you require him to wear the latter all day, every day. The unfortunate propensity for shapewear to roll down or ride up is a problem that its deers seek to address by various means, with girdles being no exception. Whether reinforced panels and bands that add stiffness to strategic places, special fabric that grips the skin, or even boning that imposes the desired curves, all can be found on women's girdles, especially those offering extra firm control.
An inevitable consequence of these features is an increased difficulty in the donning and divesting of such garments, but the latter can hardly be considered a disadvantage here. Nevertheless, the compromise made for their intended market sees pull-on or roll-on girdles being generally less substantial than those that have additional means to fasten them. Considering the aforementioned Men in open bottom girdles to accommodate a man's wider waist, which can pose problems for the pull-on styles, a woman who is looking to make her husband wear a girdle to encourage his submission should choose a sturdier de with suitable fasteners.
Regardless of whether you want him to surrender his sex to an open bottom, panty or long leg style, look for a garment with a high waist and a zipper - something that, as we shall see shortly, offers the potential for imposing even more inescapable control. For the moment, we'll merely note that such des minimise the dangers of material rolling down, whereas stretched suspender straps remove the risk of riding up - another good reason to have your husband wear stockings whenever you've got him girdled. Should you find a style that would be suitable save for its absence of suspender straps, it's relatively straightforward to add these afterwards.
In Figure 10, my husband's stockings are held up by raunchy red elastic and clasps taken from a cheap suspender belt, the contrast in colour livening up what would otherwise be a fairly unassuming piece of shapewear. It's also possible to buy such Men in open bottom girdles straps, with sturdier styles intended for corsets working just as well with a girdle.
Either way, there's no excuse for him not wearing nylons!
A brief guide to girdles for men
A man's girdle can be reserved for wearing in private, perhaps as part of a more formal maid's uniform or even a vintage housewife outfit, but like other articles of intimate attire, some of the greatest benefits are to be found from having your husband go out in one. Whether he has to wear a girdle to work, spend time Men in open bottom girdles his friends trapped in its tight grasp or simply accompany you shopping in such shapewear, such a garment is sure to encourage his submission all the more for being worn in public.
A husband having to hide a girdle under his clothes can't forget its firm fabric, its emasculating embrace made more potent by the ever-present fear that such shameful foundation wear may be found out. Such worries about not wanting his girdle to be discovered are perfectly understandable - indeed, you may share some of them yourself, hardly wishing to put your husband in a position where he will suffer public humiliation as a result of his secret submission.
In truth, however, such fears are grossly overestimated, with even the most formidable of girdles extremely unlikely to catch the eye of passersby. Unlike the tell-tale lines of a bra, there are very few aspects of a girdle that risk drawing attention - indeed, such garments are often advertised as featuring flat seams specifically deed not to show through sleek dresses, such that wearing one beneath a pair of trousers hardly poses a problem.
That doesn't mean you can't make your husband feel self-conscious about his shapewear, however. Should you find his eye wandering to other women, a simple comment about his intimate attire is all it takes to bring his attention back where it belongs.
You can even sow such suggestions ahead of time, discouraging your husband from fooling around with flirtatious colleagues by deliberately raising doubts about discovery. While you may impishly add to your husband's anxiety in order to enhance the effects of his girdle, there's actually very little cause for alarm. If your husband wears a thin white shirt or slim fit T-shirt, there's a small risk that the upper hem of a high waist girdle may show through his top, either as a slight ridge or a subtle shadow.
Even this, however, may be mistaken for the waistband of boxer shorts by those unfamiliar with foundation wear, or else assumed to be some kind of medical compression garment or back brace. In fact, girdles for men are sold as slimming aids, albeit in more masculine styles, with the muffin top that may result from your husband wearing an overly tight woman's garment strengthening this innocuous suggestion to the casual observer.
In any case, an extra layer of clothing is enough to address this issue, but if the slight bulge of flesh still offends you, the addition of a longline bra will eliminate it.